Optimal adaption to life requires successfully responding to reality as it is, right this second. When we do not respond to reality as it is, we are responding to our expectations, hopes, fears- we respond from our inner repertoire of historical responses. We are in denial.
Let preconceived notions of how the moment "should be" fade to the background, let what is actually happening come to the foreground. Lose your mind, come to your senses-- see what is happening, now.